1. the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations.
2. faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause, etc.
3. an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like: a man with fierce loyalties –noun,plural-ties.
Simple enough definition isn’t it?
It is an unspoken “rule” of life. At least in our lives. The more I think about this one word the more I see that it’s everywhere. Siblings show loyalties often with school yard bickering and taunting. When another sibling is being picked at, the other may step up to their defense.
An act of loyalty that was unspoken, yet acted upon. For a child it can come easy and so simply.
Yet as adults, that word for some can become so difficult. Shouldn’t it go without saying that as a wife you’ll be loyal each and every day to your spouse? I don’t think you should have to discuss it, yet in so many instances it seems that it not only is discussed but should be.
When I first began this post, I was talking to a few of my friends. One being Erin from over at Mrs. Cox’s Slice o’ Heaven, she said “It’s unspoken but it should be spoken about, it’s not enough just to “know” right from wrong. People need to actively work and make conscious decisions to be devoted to your husband. It’s a daily decision.“
As I told Erin, I feel as though I made that choice when my husband and I got married. We didn’t ask one another about loyalty, we obviously felt as though we were and are loyal to one another in our daily lives. I don’t recall actually having a conversation based on loyalty with him. Perhaps we did, and I only seen it as us chattering about things, not as a discussion of making that choice.
I have been to Erin’s site more than a dozen times. Yet today when I opened her site one of the first things that caught my eye was this. It’s located in her sidebar.
“My husband has my heart, my daughter is my life, my family is my strength, laughter is my air.”
I asked my husband what the first thing was that came to mind with the word loyalty. He said honesty.
Erin said, honor and integrity.
I think of it as having morals, and being ethical.
As friends, Joie and I know that the other is loyal in our friendship. To us, it goes without saying. Isn’t that the way a friendship should be. The way a marriage or any relationship should be.
The more I think about loyalty, the more places I’m finding it. I’m seeing it in places that are obvious and appreciated – yet overlooked. I see the lack of loyalty, or is it a lack of a ethics and morals? Could be a lack of self worth? Or just wanting greener grasses on the other side of the fence?
All in all, if a pet can display loyalty why can’t married adults?
Those that cheat on their spouses, lie, gossip and even spread vicious rumors, why is it a difficult task for them? Those that leave their spouse because they don’t make enough money each year, that walk away from their marriage and don’t look back for their own selfish reasons. Is it the lack of a basic animal instinct, or ignorance?
Tell me, what is your first thought with hearing the word Loyalty? Do you think it should be discussed, or that it should go without saying? How do you feel you are loyal in your daily life, tell me your thoughts.