About a year and a half ago I decided that I wasn’t going to let people push me around anymore. I wasn’t going to let people take advantage of me. One day I put my foot down and that day has changed my life forever. I found out who my true family and true friends were. It’s hard sometimes to decipher between a life sucker and someone that wants a mutual friendship.
And so I learned that most of my friends and family were life suckers. They were literally sucking the life out of me. It was hard at first and very much hurtful but in the year and half since that has passed I’m starting to feel better about myself and that I, as a person matter. I do not exist to do things for others but to enjoy life and to do the things God put me on Earth to do.
I have been working much harder on me than trying to help others who don’t want help them self. Mind you I do believe in helping others and giving a hand up, but only to those that are willing to help them self too.
I never thought myself as naive but I have always tried to find the good in people. Tried to help people that always seem to be down, but there are people who cannot be helped. That realization breaks my heart but it’s true. There are many people who are actually comfortable living in a complaint type life style.
I have stopped being the family member that constantly reaches out to others without anyone ever reaching back. These people know where I live. I haven’t moved in 25 years and if they want a relationship they know where to find me.
It was a hard realization to come to, that some people, family or friend don’t care. No one wants to admit that family and friends are using you for whatever reason. That these people have no REAL regard for who you are or your own needs, but it is the way of the world.
In this year and half, I have grown closer to my husband and kids. I’ve felt more rewards and love than I could have possibly imagined. By purging fake friends, I found out that I do have some true friends and those friends are the ones worth spoiling and spending my time with. The best thing I’ve every done is purged my friends and family that didn’t reciprocate and lavish the ones that do.