Purging People From Your Life Can Be A Good Thing

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About a year and a half ago I decided that I wasn’t going to let people push me around anymore. I wasn’t going to let people take advantage of me. One day I put my foot down and that day has changed my life forever. I found out who my true family and true friends were. It’s hard sometimes to decipher between a life sucker and someone that wants a mutual friendship.

 

And so I learned that most of my friends and family were life suckers. They were literally sucking the life out of me.  It was hard at first and very much hurtful but in the year and half since that has passed I’m starting to feel better about myself and that I, as a person matter. I do not exist to do things for others but to enjoy life and to do the things God put me on Earth to do.

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I have been working much harder on me than trying to help others who don’t want help them self. Mind you I do believe in helping others and giving a hand up, but only to those that are willing to help them self too.

 

I never thought myself as naive but I have always tried to find the good in people. Tried to help people that always seem to be down, but there are people who cannot be helped. That realization breaks my heart but it’s true. There are many people who are actually comfortable living in a complaint type life style.

 

I have stopped being the family member that constantly reaches out to others without anyone ever reaching back. These people know where I live. I haven’t moved in 25 years and if they want a relationship they know where to find me.

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It was a hard realization to come to, that some people, family or friend don’t care.  No one wants to admit that family and friends are using you for whatever reason. That these people have no REAL regard for who you are or your own needs, but it is the way of the world.

 

In this year and half, I have grown closer to my husband and kids. I’ve felt more rewards and love than I could have possibly imagined. By purging fake friends, I found out that I do have some true friends and those friends are the ones worth spoiling and spending my time with. The best thing I’ve every done is purged my friends and family that didn’t reciprocate and lavish the ones that do.

7 comments for “Purging People From Your Life Can Be A Good Thing

  1. May 20, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    Great post – good for you! I’ve also gotten rid of all the life suckers that it’s possible to be rid of. Some I can’t really do anything about and just have to live with that. But I don’t go out of my way to communicate with them.

  2. June 3, 2016 at 5:39 am

    This is an absolute must for any woman especially if you have a family. As family takes up most of our time we should not waste any extra precious time on those being unsupportive or giving off negativity. I have had to wean out a few friends over the years and while it can be very hard to do so it gives you a great sense of relief in the long run.

  3. June 3, 2016 at 5:04 pm

    It’s something a lot of people feel bad about doing, but negativity of others can really bring our lives down. I’ve also purges people, not only in personal life but also in social media.

  4. Marsha C
    July 1, 2016 at 9:23 am

    Good for you! It’s not always easy, but it can be so necessary. I have cut people out of my life and been called “cold and uncaring” for it, but I’ve always felt so much better for it. It’s part of taking charge of your life.

  5. Maryann D.
    July 1, 2016 at 11:25 am

    That is a wonderful idea to purge fake friends. We all should make an effort to do this and make our own lives better!

  6. Cheryl Everitt
    July 1, 2016 at 10:40 pm

    I am trying to practice this idea. Toxic people do not make me happy.

  7. July 27, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    I’ve just made a list of toxic people I want out of my life!

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