The Beginning Of My “How Journey”




With graduation and wedding season upon us it’s easy for many moms to question, “What is my purpose in life?”. As moms we lose our identity and sometimes we need to start from the beginning. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately, I am a wife, mother, daughter and sister. I’ve always tried to do my best at these but it just isn’t enough. So I’ve thought, and studied the Bible and it hit me. I’m a Christian and fellow human being. My purpose is to make life better for those around me. I was so excited. I figured it out. Yea ME!

Wait! Not so fast. The next question had me stumped HOW?! How, do I make things better for others? I don’t have money, because you know if you throw money at a situation it helps…..NOT! So, I pondered on, and decided I would let God lead me. I hadn’t come up with the idea in one day so I wasn’t going to solve my “how” in one day.


So what has happened? Everyday situations where I would usually get impatient or angry with someone, I try to have more patience. When I see someone and they look nice instead of passing them by, I pay them a compliment. When I ask someone how they are, I’m really interested, not just a passing good.


So to start on my “how” journey, I’ve found that I need to “CARE” about other human beings first. I need to forgive, smile and move on more. I need to stop holding things in and assuming the worst. It’s important to note that if you feel you’ve been wronged or hurt, chances are the other party feels the same way. One of the hardest things for me is to let others in, and caring for others does that naturally. It isn’t that I didn’t care, but the thought of someone caring for me scared the crap out of me. Sometimes, it’s harder to accept love or gifts than it is to give them. Part of being a good human being is finding that perfect balance.

17 comments for “The Beginning Of My “How Journey”

  1. June 22, 2016 at 1:54 pm

    Thanks for sharing such a great subject.

  2. Louisa
    June 22, 2016 at 6:10 pm

    Wow! You’re so right about finding the perfect balance. I am definitely working on sharing how I feel and resolving any conflict so I don’t bottle up the frustration.


  3. June 23, 2016 at 9:04 am

    I love this. We can always find ways to be kind and care. Great post!

  4. Jeanna Massman
    June 23, 2016 at 8:25 pm

    This is a great idea! Deciding to be a “better” person is easy, it’s the “how” that is the tricky part!

  5. Michelle Elizondo
    June 23, 2016 at 10:46 pm

    Such a beautiful journey.

  6. Michelle Elizondo
    June 24, 2016 at 9:44 am

    That’s so awesome and congrats.

  7. Linda Manns Linneman
    June 24, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    This was such a touching article. I loved it. I am a giver and I have a hard time being the receiver at times. I guess I feel that I am not worthy. God Blessed me with being a nurse. What a great mission field this is. Thank you so much for sharing. God Bless

  8. June 26, 2016 at 10:21 pm

    This seems to be a popular topic! While I’m not a mom, I am thinking about this a lot as I figure out the next steps in my life, career and relationships. Where I do I fit in?

    Thanks for sharing!

  9. Cheryl Everitt
    July 2, 2016 at 1:57 pm

    Thought provoking and very interesting. Thank you.

  10. Adriane
    July 3, 2016 at 3:42 pm

    A lovely post. As the sole caregiver for my mom I struggle with patience and with my purpose in life.

  11. Heather Amos
    July 5, 2016 at 10:34 am

    Thank you for sharing this great article. I agree that finding the perfect balance is very important.

  12. gloria patterson
    July 11, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    I so agree……….. when I use the drive through I always say something nice…… like hair/nails or just plain HOPE YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY……..

    And sometimes all you need to do is make eye contact and smile

  13. July 22, 2016 at 10:02 am

    How true that sometimes it’s harder to accept love or gifts than it is to give them

  14. Becky Richardson
    July 24, 2016 at 5:02 pm

    What a great post! Thanks for sharing.

  15. Emily Endrizzi
    July 28, 2016 at 1:24 pm

    What a lovely and beautifully written post. Thank you!

  16. ellen beck
    July 29, 2016 at 3:14 am

    Kindness is key. It kind of boils down to treat others as you like to be treated.
    It is tough not to fall into the ‘nasty game’ and get sucked in.

  17. Geri Sandoval
    August 2, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    Great post, thanks for sharing

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