Sometimes I take my husband and kids for granted. My husband is a great husband and he tries really hard to help me around the house but he doesn’t do things the way I would (sound familiar?). Or he goes above and beyond what I wanted. At times this causes me frustration and I get impatient when I should really be thankful and accepting of his intentions.
I think many times how blessed I am to have my husband. He’s a wonderful person, husband and father. Best of all he loves me and goes out of his way to do little things to make our relationship special. So the other day when he got frustrated with me it gave me pause to think about all he does for our family and the little thanks he gets.
Many of us moms feel like we’re in a tiring and thankless job. We think if we just had a little help, just a little, things would go so much smoother. However, when help is extended to us we criticize it or even turn it away. Thinking from my husband’s point of view, I sure would be frustrated with me.
This just doesn’t relate to my husband but kids as well. So in my “HOW JOURNEY” I’ve decided that getting rid of my anxiety and creating happiness starts with ME! I need to learn to accept help and accept the way it’s given to me. It doesn’t matter if the dishwasher is loaded incorrectly as long as it’s loaded and run. It doesn’t REALLY matter if all of my towels are folded the same, so that the backs are perfectly together, it just matters that when we open the closet door we have a clean towel.
I have been so wrapped up in perfections that don’t really matter that I’ve stopped enjoying life and become critical, not just of myself but those I care about most. Here are some things I’m going to try to do more of.
- When my husband does something to help I’m going to embrace him and thank him.
- When my kids try to help I’m going to leave the project the way they did it and thank them for their effort.
- I’m going to love more and criticize less.
- I’m going to take that little bit of the extra time their help gives me and spend it on them, shooting baskets, catching up on what’s going on with them, and doing things that will build loving memories.
- I am going to make sure my husband knows I love and appreciate him as a husband, father and provider for our family.
I have gone through much of my adult life thinking if I’m not productive, I’m doing nothing. Not true! Sometimes when you’re doing nothing you’re the most productive.