We’ve all seen them in social media. The moms that know it all, the moms that want to be better than the others and so she posts things that tear other moms down. Many times these women themselves feel inferior or insecure. Lately, I have seen more and more of it on Facebook.
I would first like to say to all moms, take it easy. We’re all doing the best we can, but not all of us get it done the same way. I’m covering this for two reasons one, I think it’s better to be the “good enough” mom then it is to be a mom who does nothing or a mom who tries to do everything. It’s a moderation thing. The other reason, for those of you posting these things you may not even realize that you’re tearing down and criticizing other moms.
All moms want to learn and become educated about life in general so that we can give our kids the best start possible, but many moms like me are trying to figure out the “HOW”. It used to be cereal was a great way to start your morning or even a great snack. Fast forward a quarter century and SURPRISE! Cereal that started out as healthy has so many additives added to it it’s no longer a good staple. Cereal is marketed towards kids and has so much added sugar, filler and colors that it’s not good for any of us. Let’s for just a minute forget the brand. I saw a mom re-post a post on Facebook and say “Glad I never fed my kids that junk”. Funny thing is, I know for a fact that mom did and has.
Let’s move forward to brand names. A couple of years back a bagged cereal was recalled. I’m going to call these girls chick #1 and chick #2 and they’re sisters. Chick #1 says, I would NEVER feed my kids that crap, which btw I do feed my kids that crap, and Chick #2 yells at her sister “you’re so full of crap, and just being mean”. That right there took away all thoughts of inferiority I may have had. I politely smiled and said to Chick #2 that I was glad I didn’t have any of the recalled cereal on hand right now.
Moving right along let’s talk about organic moms. I admire them. I really do and I wish that I could afford organics, we’re on a tight budget and my boys literally eat me out of house and home. A mom commented that she wouldn’t feed her kids at all if organics weren’t available. *sigh* I think you’re getting the picture.
These three scenarios are just examples and happen to be food examples but this type of “shaming” can be about food, discipline, children’s health, etc. My point is we don’t have to be confrontational, we can build each other up and use things that happen as teaching points.
Example, if a cereal contains something not so great, post about what isn’t great about it and maybe a cereal that is a healthier alternative. If you know all about organics and a mom can’t afford them, make some suggestions like, Do you have an Aldi’s? They have great prices on their organics. Or wash the produce you buy in baking soda water and rinse well. Another great idea? Maybe you can grow some of your vegetables during the summer (that’s organic!).
Moms, Sisters, Daughters, WOMEN we’re all in this together. We can make our lives so much easier and better if we help one another instead of criticizing, making critical points at people, or just being mean.
What are you doing to help build other moms up?