“Good things come to those who wait”, “It’s better to give than receive”, “The Lord will provide”, “God never gives you more than you can handle”, these phrases have been phrases I’ve lived by. While they aren’t in the Bible (I know many think they are), they are truths we try to hold on to. We all try not to suffer, we try to talk ourselves into not feeling bad, that others have it worse than we do. We try to keep a positive spin on things. When talking to friends we encourage them with these sayings. Teaching our children? We instill these in them and these are lies!
Lets take the first one “Good things come to those who wait”, well honey if you’re waiting for the perfect man, and you’re waiting on a million dollars, you’re going to be waiting a long time. You have to get up and make it happen. Not that there isn’t divine intervention but you have to LIVE. Wait shouldn’t be considered a verb. Waiting is essentially doing nothing and if you do nothing you cannot be blessed. Living life is where we find our blessings.
“It’s better to give than receive”, tis the season right? Not so fast. Because we’ve all been so busy giving we take the joy from someone who is giving to us, meaning we need to receive. Yeah, think about this, if you gave someone you love dearly, the ultimate gift and they smiled and thanked you and put the gift aside, it would hurt your feelings because they didn’t properly know how to receive. Yep, think about this long and hard. We all need to receive love, affection and gifts. When we receive we should be thankful and grateful. Engaging with the giver is the best place to start. This creates a bond.
“The Lord will provide”, while God does provide, he does it by giving us the tools to produce our needs for ourselves. If we don’t utilize these tools it’s our own fault. For instance, I know an older man that was working as a general manager for a major chain company. He was pretty high up, and this relatively unknown company came to him and said we really want you to work for us. The man had a family to feed and it would be a risk. His gut was telling him to take that job, it bugged and bothered him but he finally said “no” and a year or two later the chain of stores he was working for went bankrupt. The company that had offered him the job? Hallmark. That prompting the man didn’t listen to was God trying to provide for him but his own decision and thoughts didn’t allow him to reach higher than where he was.
“God never gives you more than you can handle”, I hear people say this and I think “those people are the problem and not the solution”. When someone is at their breaking point and they harm themselves or others, they were given more than they can handle. Where were their friends and family? It is up to us as a village, community, or family, to say, lean on me. I’ll help you through this. It hurts my heart when I hear/see someone begging for help and there is NO ONE lending a hand to them.
I try, I do, but I’m still a guilty party to much of this. I don’t do enough. In my “How Journey” I have thought hard, prayed and meditated to come up with answers and these are a bunch of them that has been bugging me. I’m not going to list bad things that have happened that one person could have made a difference, but I am saying, look inside yourself and see what you can do to be a better friend, relative, or just a person that you yourself can love.
What are your thoughts?