I even hesitate to share what has gone on over the last year. I first want to say I love my blog. I love the readers and companies I work with, but life had gotten to be too much, and I’m hopefully, finally, on an upswing.
It all started in December 2016, my daughter got engaged over Christmas, and my father in law refused to come to dinner, which was nothing new because he was older and grumpy. He was rarely on speaking terms with his children, grandchildren and other family members. On Christmas Day he snarked at my boys who had gone to his home to shovel his driveway so he could come to dinner. Deciding to let him stew and carry on, we received a call January 9th of 2017, and we found him in his home deceased.
THIS was the start of something so much bigger than I could handle, or should have even thought I could tackle. (I know, I know, you’re thinking sooooo this was over a year ago, but please read on!) I have written about this before, and the fact that he died with out probating a will. He had small estate by small I mean less that $15000 including his car and trailer. NOW, JUST NOW we are closing the estate with the court system. The number of phone calls, disposing of his items etc, was just unreal and his expenses exceeded his assets.
Next up, we had to work on planning and executing my daughters wedding. It was a small wedding because of a small budget, but doable with us all working together. This took lots of time and compromise. My sweet adorable little girl kinda, sorta turned into a bride-zilla. Yep, I never thought it could happen to MY child. The same girl I sat and watched wedding shows. The same girl I watched wedding shows with and we laughed and giggled at women making a huge “to do” over their wedding details.
Then my 21 year old son, who is still living at home, comes to me and says, “Mom, I’m buying a house”. This happened quickly too. In a matter of days he had been approved for mortgage and had found a house he would put an offer in on. However, everyone in our house seems to think I’m their secretary and the goddess of pulling information out of my a$$, but that’s so not the case. It’s easier for them to make me do their paperwork and make their phone call than doing it themselves. This did allow me to clean out everything I had 2 of but again it was a time sucker.
Not to get lost in the shuffle my 15 year old, Quinn has decided to be a farmer and bought fertilized eggs that hatched on Mother’s Day. Chicks are so cute, but they grow up to be stinky, smelly chickens. He has been a good Chicken Daddy, but he’s 15 and still needs help and rides to the Farm and Feed.
Add to this, my webhost for Networking Witches told me they couldn’t accommodate the traffic of my websites (3 sites). So Karie, worked her heart out and figured out the mystery puzzle piece that got us back on line with a new host, DreamHost. I still have kinks to work out but for the most part it’s done.
AND THEN, I had a normal physical. I was actually excited to go because I’ve lost 70 lbs. The doctor said “You’re 48, get a mammogram”. A couple of days later I was getting my first mammogram. A few days later I got the call every woman dreads, that they found something on the mammogram and I needed to return for more photos. That didn’t make me too nervous, I was sure it was just a mistake. But nope, they found something and I had to follow up with a surgeon just days before my daughters wedding. He started with “80% of these required biopsies are nothing”. 4 days after the wedding I went in for a biopsy, which I plan to blog about later because, I truly had no clue what was going on. Today, I’m relieved to say I was with the 80% and that tumor was nothing.
While all of this sounds like daily life to many it’s been time consuming. Time I’ve had to take away from my JOB. Blogging is a job, writing is a job and it doesn’t always come easy, but it’s something I love. So my readers I’m sorry I’ve been a terrible blog host in the last year and a half, but the blog is going on 10 years old and I intend to keep breathing life into and hope you will continue to join me.
Has this been a burdening time for you too? Please share!
That is a lot to get through. I couldn’t imagine all of that going on and cranking out content. My first mammography was the same, the phone call that I had to come in for more pics. I didn’t need a biopsy but have dense tissue so now they don’t let me leave until they have a clear picture, always have to get more done. Glad to here your biopsy was clear and looking forward to your posts and reviews.
Melissa, it’s such a scary time to go through and I thought when I googled it there would be tons of information for me to research and there was NOTHING. No one wants to actually put what’s going to happen to you out there. I was super scared but of the procedure not of cancer.
Life has a way of throwing curveballs sometimes one after another. We are sill going through what I call the “Columbo” phase/ Remember his famous line? “Just one more thing?” Yeah that’s our life.
It sounds as if you are going through some of the same. I too am the fixer who everyone thinks I can pull magical beans from the sky.
I am so glad your mammogram came out OK. That happened once to me, and they did like a sonogram and then a 3D thingy. I am glad you were with the 80%.
Get yourself well physically and emotionally. BTW wtg on those pounds!
The curveballs are so hard to avoid. I’ve missed you 🙂 You were a part of my blog when it was in infancy. Thank you for stopping by <3
Oh my gosh! I really don’t know how you haven’t had a meltdown, truly. You must have nerves and a heart of steel. I salute you!
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OH man! That’s a lot! It’s amazing what we can get through, isn’t it? And I hope things go smoothly as your son transitions to his new home.
Uh, I think all of this would stress out Superwoman, lol, let alone us mere mortals! My advice: find a really isolated spot and let it rip, scream your lungs out. Lol, you might feel better.
It is so hard on a person when there’s not a will made. Thank you for sharing.